When it Comes to Youth Team Sports, Scoring is Overrated
With fantasy sports and several round the clock sports networks, it's easy to lose sight of how games are won. Fantasy sports teaches us only scoring is valuable. What we see today on sports networks are dunks, touchdowns, fantastic goals, and home runs. What we don't see are smart passes, great defense, consistent blocking and tackling, and bunting your teammate over when your team needs it. This is not a criticism of the sports networks. That's what people want to see. But due to the constant bombardment of these highlights, people lose sight of how games are won.
When I was in college, we had an All-American running back on our team named Bob Beatty. Of course, he scored several touchdowns, but he could have scored more. Often Bob would get tackled inside the five yard line, and we would hand the ball off to our big fullback who scored more touchdowns than anyone in the Iowa Conference that year, including Beatty. Beatty could have scored every one of those, and he probably wanted to. But, as teammates, no one ever questioned Beatty's value because he didn't have as many touchdowns. The team knew he was significantly more valuable than our fullback, as he gained more yards, was a great pass receiver, an excellent blocker, and a supportive teammate. Point being, as you get into high school, college, and pro, teammates are able to see value (or lack of) in each other that outsiders do not.
So I cringe when parents are talking about their young athletes and the first thing they discuss is how many touchdowns they scored, baskets they made, or goals they scored. Of course, that is bound to come up, and that is understandable. But, when kids hear their parents bragging and talking about points and goals, all that does is reinforce the fantasy and highlight mentality that scoring is everything. When I talk to my brother about his kids, I want to know how they played. Were they aggressive? Were they working hard? Are they getting better? Did they work well with their team? Are they enjoying playing? Of course I hear if they scored, but that is tertiary to several other things I want to know about their play.
There is absolutely value in scoring and I don't want to minimize that. The drive and effort it takes for an athlete to push themselves to get into the end zone, score a basket, or hit the puck into the net is extremely admirable. Just make sure your young athletes understand that winning at high levels is a team effort. And to be a part of a winning team, you need to do several things well. Not just the scoring.
Youth Sports: It's Not About the Coach
If you have kids in a "competitive" sports league or watched a youth game of a relative or family friend, you more than likely have seen an overzealous coach. It's the coach who's always yelling at players and referees. The coach who's not playing all the kids. The coach who bases his team's success strictly on wins. It's the coach proudly holding a trophy in the air along with the kids after a win. In general, it's the coach who feels they are one of the competitors. They are not.
Across the country, many of today's youth sports programs put way too much emphasis on winning, and this is reflected by the coaches. Coaches of youth programs should not have winning as their number one goal. Quite frankly, winning is easy if you are willing to take shortcuts, which is what is happening. There are a number of negative side effects to having a "win first" attitude.
The biggest problem is early age attrition. Coaches may decide not to play kids who have yet to peak. Many of these kids could end up quitting, either because sitting on the bench is not fun, or their parents feel they won't have future success and convince them to stop playing. It's not always clear how good an athlete will become when they are four to ten years old. Kids develop at different ages, and a coach and a program's goal should be to keep as many kids playing sports for as long as they can. Coaches and parents should never be the reason an athlete stops playing a sport. Athletes in a competitive environment are not going to have the exact same playing time or play all the positions, however, a coach should never completely shut down the athletes who have not quite developed. Coaches should spend just as much time coaching them as they do their star players, provided they are willing to listen.
Finally, parents and coaches need to keep things in perspective while their athletes are competing in youth sports. A main goal of a youth sports coach is to keep kids playing by creating a fun environment. Secondly, you are trying to teach them how to do things the right way, so when they practice, they continue to improve, and put themselves in position to be successful when they get older. Never in high school or college did a coach base my playing time on how good I was when I was nine. Although winning is fun for the athletes, parents, and coaches, understand that winning games when you are eight doesn't mean a whole lot. It's absolutely okay to put kids in a competitive environment where the kids are trying to win. Just make sure the team/league is focused on the kids. Because it's not about the coach.
Stapleton All Sports is interested in attracting energetic, athletic coaches to work with kids ages 4-10. If interested in applying, contact Gabe Hurley at firstname.lastname@example.org